Sunday, April 18, 2010

From The Left: Consequences be damned...

I do not advocate the use of corporal punishment in child raising - I find it more often than not creates bullies, rather than corrects behaviour.  I believe in allowing natural consequences to follow misbehaviour (go out in the rain without a coat, you get soaked), and applying logical consequences as necessary (don't do assignment for homework, you get zero.)  As parents, we are tempted to intervene in times where we should stand back and watch but we live vicariously through our kids, and we really do feel their pain, and it is therefore understandable that we try to protect them in these cases, or at least mitigate their suffering.  Parents too often intervene in areas where they'd help the child more by standing aside and letting the cards fall where they may - if it doesn't expose them to mortal danger or excessive injury.  Let your child experience what happens when they make "bad" choices.  This is one area where we need to help kids and parents understand the distinction between parent and friend.  As a parent it is my obligation to enable my son or daughter to know right from wrong and then send them into the world equipped to make such choices.  That's not being mean, it's being a responsible parent.